A brief rant to begin with:
Paganism is kind of a funny religion in that it's an amalgamation of a
conservative, very heterosexual British movement from the 40's/50's
and a radical lesbian-feminist American movement from the 60's/70's. Go
figure. Anyway, this means that although there are a whole lot of queer
pagans, myself and most of my friends included, the dominant imagery in
paganism is heterosexual (Lord/Lady, athame/chalice, phallus/yoni, etc.).
I've been to very few public rituals which included queer divine
I think this is a problem. If we really want to affirm that "all acts of
love and pleasure" are the Goddess' rituals (or, more to the point, our
rituals), we need to start thinking about how to work with
gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgendered images of the divine.
Some slightly more organized thoughts on the subject: